I am not sure why I’m sharing this but I need to, also warning that this might trigger you as it is about babies and safety.
There was a moment on Monday that I genuinely believed I might not see Ruby again.
I had just left to swim team carpool and had the feeling to look at her monitor. She had somehow wrapped her whole head in a blanket and was facing up unresponsive to me yelling through the monitor.
I broke every traffic law and I have never in my life felt the way I did in those moments. I raced in to her room screaming at everyone who was in the house to come help me. I pulled off the blanket (which happened to be just another sleep sack she had pulled off the side of the crib) and she began to cry. I didn’t even hold her. I fell to the ground. Hyperventilating and crying and washed over with every feeling imaginable. It has been too much to bear even though she is safe. I cried on and off most the day and felt like I am still walking through a cloud. I have so much gratitude to my Heavenly Father today who in the middle of my drive gave me intuition to look at the monitor. He saved us both that day and my heart felt so overwhelmed 😭❤️
Before you ask- yes- there was an adult there, and I had called them, and they didn’t pick up.
My intuition told me just to go. To go as fast as I could.
I could have tried neighbors, but my mind didn’t go there– I just needed to get to her.
See, we always, always leave the sleep sack in the crib, so it’s there when we need it next.
I can not remember a time when there were two in there with her, but I know now that, by grace & love from something bigger than me, I was given this chance to tell you about sleep safety and what I’ve learned.
I will NEVER again not check to see that anything that could obstruct Ruby’s sleeping has been effectively removed from her crib.
No blankets, toys or, yes, even other sleep sacks.
I am not going to place blame on anyone or any thing other than the comfort my family has had the privilege of having in being more relaxed with our sleep safety.
And we will now be more diligent.
These sleep safety tips are from March of Dimes. I couldn’t support them more, and I urge you to use my story, and this email, as a very friendly reminder that you cannot become too comfortable with your practices. Make these standard rules in your home and practice them so that every family member knows them:
- Safe sleep can help protect your baby from sudden infant death syndrome (also called SIDS) and other dangers, like choking and suffocation.
- Put your baby to sleep on his back on a flat, firm surface, like in a crib or bassinet. Do this every time your baby sleeps, including naps.
- Put your baby to sleep in his own crib or bassinet. It’s good to share a room with your baby, but don’t share a bed.
- Don’t use sleep positioners, like nests or anti-roll pillows. They can cause your baby to stop breathing.
- Keep crib bumpers, loose bedding, toys and other soft objects out of your baby’s crib.
I would add to use sleep sacks as a way of sleep training & safety.
I LOVE my sleep sacks. I know that you are probably reading that and not fully understanding how I wouldn’t want to burn every single one in my home.
Well, it’s not the sleep sack’s fault. And Ruby loves them.
Compared to blankets, this sleep sack is awesome alternative. Keeps her cozy, without a blanket. If you need a good sleep sack, I love these.
And please- if you have young babies and you don’t have a monitor to watch them, be able to hear them and monitor their oxygen levels, I can’t tell you the peace of mind that this Owlet system brings to me.
And that’s where I’ll leave this. I’m already an anxious person, and this severely peaked my anxiety for this entire week. And I have not slept well since, but I have my monitor to continue to watch her on, and the importance of removing additional soft objects from Ruby’s crib has been hammered into everyone’s mind in the Rammell household.
Just hold your babies a little tighter tonight, mama.
All of them.
And remember– you’re doing the best job that you can, but it’s always nice to have a reminder.
xo Jenna + babes